In a new trend, Americans are being compared to other countries in terms of parenting abilities and techniques. We’ve all heard of Tiger Mom, now we are hearing about Le Tigre Mom. In a new book entitled Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting, author Pamela Druckerman claims that the French are better at raising children than Americans!
Now, we all can learn a thing or two about parenting. But we all do what works for our family, and what is best for our children (right?!). When can we stop judging each other and just BE GOOD MOTHERS!?! The things that are ‘better’ about French parenting- discipline, delayed gratification, children sleep through the night, children are not as picky with healthy food, and the mothers lose baby weight faster. Really? Now, I have not read this book yet- but it sounds to me like the French have less parenting guilt than Americans.
They tell their children ‘no’, they put them on a schedule, and they expect them to behave. Well, I’m not French, but I tell my children NO, my children are not picky eaters and they sleep through the night. Many American mothers are challenged with working full time and feeling guilty about it- which can lead to less discipline. But that is not all of us! Not all of us let our children misbehave in public, without doing anything about it. I resent that generalization. I’m sure there are wonderful French mothers, but there are also amazing super-moms over here in America!
I have to agree with Meagan Francis, author of The Happiest Mom. “There’s no more effective mom than one who is true to her own principles and is open to new ideas, without jumping on every new fad just because somebody said it results in better kids.” AMEN to that!
Disclaimer: I am not claiming that I am, or ever will be “super-mom.”